New Year, New Desires: Exploring and Embodying Pleasure in 2025
As a sexologist, I’m a huge fan of setting goals and intentions for the new year. And while many of us are used to resolutions around fitness or productivity, I’m here to encourage you to make this year one focused on pleasure and self-discovery. After all, when we embrace our desires, we open the door to deeper connections, joy, and authenticity.
Why 2025 is the Year to Explore Your Desires
The new year offers a beautiful opportunity to reflect on what we truly want and how we want to feel. It's time to break free from societal restrictions, judgments, and the limiting ideas around what pleasure is supposed to look like.
2025 is about discovering what truly excites and fulfills you—without guilt or shame. Imagine embracing every part of your sexual and emotional self with an open heart and mind. When we allow ourselves to explore what brings us pleasure, we not only connect deeper with our desires but also with our true selves.
5 Ways to Embody Pleasure and Explore Your Desires in 2025
Tip: Write down your desires—big or small. What excites you about intimacy this year? What would make you feel more connected to your own pleasure?
Reflect on What You Truly Desire
Before we dive into action, let’s take a moment to think about what you actually want—sexually, emotionally, and in your relationships. What excites you? What makes you feel good in your body? This is the perfect time to journal or have a conversation (even with yourself) to clarify your desires for 2025.Set Pleasure-Focused Intentions
It’s easy to get caught up in resolutions focused on work, body image, or productivity. This year, what if we set intentions around pleasure? Whether you want to explore a new toy, try new intimacy practices, or create deeper emotional connections with yourself or a partner, make pleasure a priority this year.Tip: Think about a goal like, "I will dedicate one hour a week to self-care or intimacy," or "I will communicate my needs openly with my partner."
Experiment with New Forms of Pleasure
Pleasure is multi-faceted—it’s not one-size-fits-all! This year, why not explore new ways to bring more pleasure into your life? Whether it’s introducing toys into your solo or partnered play, trying new types of touch, or exploring sensual rituals, the possibilities are endless.Tip: If you're in a relationship, try new ways of connecting emotionally, physically, or intellectually. If you're solo, explore different self-pleasure techniques that excite you!
Deepen Emotional and Physical Intimacy
Pleasure isn’t just physical—it’s emotional too. Strengthening your emotional intimacy with yourself or a partner can amplify your physical experiences. Set intentions this year to build deeper emotional connections and be intentional with your communication, time together, and shared experiences.Tip: Regularly check in with your partner or even with yourself about how your emotional and physical intimacy feels. Could there be ways to enhance both?
Celebrate Your Journey of Pleasure
Embracing pleasure means celebrating your body, your desires, and the progress you make. It’s easy to get caught up in striving for the next thing, but every step toward embracing more pleasure—no matter how small—is worth celebrating.Tip: After trying something new or stepping outside your comfort zone, reward yourself. This could be a relaxing bath, a favorite treat, or just acknowledging how far you’ve come.
As we step into 2025, remember that exploring your desires and embracing pleasure is an ongoing journey—one that’s full of growth, self-discovery, and empowerment. This year, let's honor every part of ourselves—our bodies, our desires, and our pleasures—with intention and confidence.
If you’ve made it this far and feel motivated to take control of your relationship with sex and pleasure in 2025, let’s talk! Schedule a 1:1 call with me, and we can discuss your goals, create a personalized plan, and work through any challenges you might be facing.
Here’s to a year of deep connection, growth, and living authentically. You deserve all the pleasure and joy this year has to offer!
